Accept the Reality

Accept the fact that the relationship is over. Do not give yourself unrealistic fantasies that you might get back together one day. Respect the fact that the relationship had its time, but has no ran out ways to work. This was a chapter in your life that has now closed and you are now ready to grow and enter another chapter of your life. 

Learn from it. Everything is a learning experience, so use it your advantage! look over your relationship and list what went good about it and what went wrong. 

Never generalize. going through a break up does cause you emotional withdrawal and pain, which may cause you to generalize everyone you meet or choose to date. Keep in mind that everyone is an individual with their own unique qualities and personalities and your encounters with them will not carry the same experience as your ex-relationship.

Not You

Moving on doesn't have to mean forgetting or pretending it didn't happen. It did happen. But it's time for me to accept that our paths aren't meant to cross again. And moving on doesn't mean that i can't think about you sometimes, and think about how it used to be. But it means that those memories are in the past, not hopes for the future. And lastly, moving on doesn't mean that I can start a new chapter in my life where I'm the main character, not you. 

Scars

How do you handle negative or hate from people? It hurts until it doesn't, don't let words get you. Be numb to it. 

Not all people gonna like you, it's life. If they hurt you, forget them. If they apologized for it, forgive them. Keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer, remember? It's okay to get rid of toxic people. It's okay to put yourself first. It's never selfish. because you deserve it.

I've learned in life, that never depend your happiness on someone else. never put your happiness on someone's hand. They drop it, they drop it every time. 

It doesn't matter if you are single for decades, the right one will come soon, if it's meant to be it will. You don't need someone to prove your worth, you don't need someone to feel complete. You are whole. 

"To love is to let go" They said will you fight for the one you love or you let them go? If it's for their happiness, let them go. Sometimes that is never meant yours. 

It's okay to be painfully honest, it's okay to tell someone you like them, it's okay to tell them you miss them, it's okay to compliment someone without coming off as desperate, you might make their day.

  

Your scars are still new, but eventually you will get better.

Funny ?

It's funny how hello is always accompanied with goodbye.  

It's funny how good memories can start to make you cry.  

It's funny how forever never seems to really last.  

It's funny how much you'd lose if you forgot about your past.  

It's funny how people change and think they're so much better.  

It's funny how many lies can be packed in one 'love letter'.  

It's funny how people can forgive, even though they can't forget.  

It's funny how one night can contain so much regret.  

It's funny how ironic life turns out to be.

But, the funniest part of all is that none of this really seems funny to me.

If you think

If you think that love is all sweet roses, colorful candies and astounding butterflies, you are wrong. love isn't a fairy tale of a perfect prince charming and a smooth happily ever after.

Because just like snow white have to be poisoned and Rapunzel have to cut her hair, love is more like darkness and sacrifice. Just like how there is an evil witch, your love will be tested by people who will disapprove. 

Love should be with you through thick and thins, ups and downs, darkness to light. it should be with you even through joy or sadness. because there is only one love and that love will conquers all the trials, travel between seas and not being hindered by the spaces between the heaven and earth.